2018: Goals & Resolutions

With a new year upon us, I’ve been taking some time to reflect on what 2017 left me with and where I want to go in the coming 12 months.

2017 was a weird year, guys. I ended a 5 year relationship, graduated from University, lived without phone service/internet/basic technology for 4 months, and had my friends group spread out and separate across the country. A lot happened. And even though it didn’t feel right at the time, all this shit led to some positive changes in my life.

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So while I’m still riding this #NewYearNewMe vibe, I’m going to share some of my goals and resolutions for 2018.


Drink More Water

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This is such a lame goal but probably one of the most important I can think of. I’m garbage at remembering to drink enough water– most of my fluids are ingested through cups of tea and the milk at the bottom of my cereal bowl. In 2018 I want to get better about drinking water, even if that means the additional trips to the bathroom each day.


Make Travel and Exploration a Priority

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I’ve been a big home-body for most of my life, and 2017 was the first time I went on a solo adventure. In 2018 I want to do more of that– not necessarily alone, but I definitely want to put myself in more situations that warrant me relying on myself and putting myself out there in the world.


Spend More Time Outside

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My current job pretty much demands that I spend 4 hours a day glued to my laptop, but after spending the summer cut off from technology I was surprised but how much I enjoyed unplugging. I really want to spend more time outside and away from my desk in 2018.


Become a Morning Person

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My days usually don’t start until 9 or so, which means they usually end around 1 in the morning. I really hate that I miss a lot of my favorite morning yoga classes because of my sleep schedule, and that I miss out on family time in the morning– when I was growing up in school I would always wake up early and visit with my parents while we ate breakfast. In 2018 I want to get back to a healthier sleep schedule, especially one that doesn’t involve me blogging until the early hours of the morning.


Embrace Change

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2017 was definitely the year my life fell apart. As a person who hates change, this was especially hard to cope with. One of my proudest moments of the year was realizing that I had the ability to handle whatever life chose to throw at me– and even more, realizing that I kind of thrive in the madness that is an upturned life.

By far my biggest resolution in 2018 is to maintain this attitude towards change, and to use moments of uncertainty and wobbliness to improve myself as a person.

God, Oprah should interview me. She would love all this self-improvement shit.

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International Women’s Day: 5 Simple Pleasures of Identifying as a Woman

It’s 2017. International Women’s Day is more than just a day to celebrate conventional femininity.

Now more than ever is the time to celebrate womanhood in all its forms and to look at feminism beyond its classic cookie-cutter white washed portrayal– it’s time to look at and appreciate all women, regardless of race, religion, able-bodiedness, weight, sexuality, and whatever other dividers the world tries to put between us.

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If you identify as a woman, then I invite you to celebrate with me today. In the face of those who would want to separate us it’s important to gather strength and build each other up. Rather than look at our differences, I want to spend this International Women’s Day celebrating 5 Simple Pleasures of Identifying as a Woman.

     1. Beyoncé’s “Who Run the World (Girls)”

One thing we can all agree on is that this song is amazing.

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There is no better feeling than seeing a relatively empty dance floor become immediately crowded the second this song comes on, suddenly filled a hoard of diverse and universally pumped women shaking it as hard as they can in some sort of ritual to honor Queen Bey. I swear half the plot of Mean Girls could have been resolved in a second if Beyoncé had just released this song a few years earlier.

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No matter what kind of feminism or womanhood you prescribe to, we can all agree that women run the world. No matter your privilege, no matter your sexuality, no matter if you are Black, Asian, Muslim, Latinx, Disabled, Trans, Fat, or Poor– this song is a reminder that we are all important. The world needs women.

2. #WCW

Okay, I’ll be honest. #MCM is super lame. More often than not the only men featured in the Man Candy Monday Instagram hashtag are celebrities who are idealistic media portrayals of men or your friend’s idiot boyfriend who is being praised for not drinking directly out of the milk carton. Not worthy of a hashtag.

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#WCW on the other hand is a whole other game. Any given Women Crush Wednesday you can scroll through the #WCW tag and consistently be slapped by gorgeous woman after gorgeous woman. Even better, a large percentage of the posts not only honor the women for being beautiful (because, duh. we’re all hot) but also for their kindness, intelligence, caring, and success. It’s like a weekly little International Women’s Day.

3. Donald Trump Doesn’t Identify as a Woman

So congrats! You’re already distancing yourself from American’s Biggest Loser.

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Even better– so many other amazing, talented, intelligent, and successful people identify as women. There’s Beyoncé (obviously,) Tina Fey, Malala Yousafzai, Helen Keller, Melissa McCarthy, Christy Brown, Michele Obama, Oprah, Carolyn Walker, Amber Riley, Hillary Clinton, Sofia Vergara, Gabourey Sidibe, JK Rowling, Dalia Mogahed, Laverne Cox, Angelina Jolie, Judge Judy, Rihanna, Jazz Jennings, Adele…

And that’s just to name a few. We’re in good company, ladies.

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4. We Turn Our Characters Into Icons

Although there’s still a huge shortage of well-rounded and well-written female characters appearing in the world’s media, on the rare occasion we are given one we turn them into feminist icons.

When I was growing up, every little girl wanted to be Hermione Granger. And before that, it was Princess Leia. Now, it’s Katniss Everdeen. Anytime writers give us strong, purposeful, well-written women with agency they turn into symbols of the power women possess. Even less complex characters (like the Sex and the City gang, or the Pretty Little Liars) become signifiers of reclaimed control of one’s body and sexuality, and rebellion against imposing authority– and in 2017, we need characters like this more than ever.

Give us more female characters. Make them minorities. Make them trans, make them LGBTQA. Make them disabled. Make them reflective of every different side of womanhood and femininity. But never stop making them powerful.

5. There Has Never Been a Better Time to be a Woman

Let me rephrase this: being a woman is still difficult, and in many ways dangerous. We are still largely oppressed. We are still not equal to men. We are still not treated as we should be.

But for the first time women everywhere are beginning to set aside their differences to stand together and fight for each other. Every time one of us uses our privilege or agency to defend one another, that is powerful. That leads to change.

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We are only a few months into 2017 and already I have seen so many instances of women extending a hand to one another to fight against oppressive forces both in and outside of their government. Movements like the Women’s March are just the beginning of larger change that will eventually lead to more equality and to more understanding.

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To those who identify as women and girls, wherever you are reading this: we are more similar than we are different. We are stronger together than apart. We are all women in our own right, and that alone is worth celebrating.

Happy International Women’s Day.

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